Well, at the moment, I was married to Lenny, but not in the biblical sense.
In desperation, I asked him “Should I have relationships with women; maybe I am really gay?” “No, dear. You like men way too much” He had replied reassuringly. We used to admire young men together. Once when I was musing about lesbian relationships to Tom, he said “they seem fraught with the same control issues, the same misunderstandings.”